"I can not forget it ..."

To leave without mutual quarrels, claims and revenge - a rare and inaccessible art. Women are often replaced by a full-fledged relationship social life, the world beyond these relations virtually cease to exist. And when a man does not want them to continue to perceive it as a personal insult.

Why is it so hard to accept the news that you need to leave? Because of the unexpected. Women confused the concept of "love" and "to know". They think that if you love a person, then you know it. Although this is not the case. You have to understand that every love story has the right to end. Especially if the relationship was hasty, immature. If there was an emotional independence, and internal systems were not controlled.

"We met, had a strong love, a storm of emotions, nothing like this ... then parted. Almost without explanation. He said that he found another ... The pain was unbearable. There was a time when I wanted to go to another city. At night crying into the pillow, unable to work, the house howled in despair, and that took 2 years, we are not together, but .. I want it back, win back his love and still forget and let go. When I meet him somewhere in the city, I feel the chill of the body, trembling at the knees, the excitement. I think that I can never forget him. "

I've always wondered, how hard can a woman clinging to obsolete already Us. Can be up to a minute to call the time of the collapse, to remember all the things that made it clear: these relations are doomed to failure. Still longing for him, not allowing himself to send this stuff on the dusty shelf somewhere in the recesses of our memory. If women knew that the family - is not the purpose of life, the love passes, perfect people do not exist, then life would be much quieter. But alas. The weaker sex, unfortunately spoiled by tales of eternal love. The desire to love waking up in it very early, and instead to work on feelings, women tend to them as quickly as possible to be realized. When in a hurry, it is easier to make mistakes.

In a passionate love of a woman, there are four reasons:

- Sexual desire (to thirty is almost every feeling of love)

- Stereotypes (all have guy and I do not)

- Neurosis (obsessive state of dissatisfaction with their situation). When neuroses characteristic link their systems with the "objective" circumstances. Partner neurotic need to get rid of uncertainty - "now I'm not alone, I can rely on him ...."

- Romanticism, idealization of the partner.

More often than not in a state of love is involved the whole bouquet. What is the danger of such a relationship? The fact that they do not occur unprofitable feelings, and surrogate. The main feature is the development of happy love - a process that grows from a small, not only large, but also qualitative. Such love can change a person makes a softer partners, patient and wise, people gradually learn to coexist together, respecting and protecting each other.

Love surrogate can be compared with a musical clip .  She is bright, saturated, but, in fact, even pernicious, because only teaches an attractive picture .  Its main principle - artificiality (in order to make it more beautiful) .  I called - so missed, tied a couple of words - wow, smart, informed the bag - caring .  Like this woman in her and talk, falling in love is not a specific person, and that themselves "namechtali" .  And any of them have already mentally got married and came up with the names of the children, and one evening he went for a beer T-shirt and sneakers - and has not returned .  Nothing can be done, there is no permanence in nature, we can not control others .  But a self-contained, with high self-esteem is a person understands and acknowledges that the relationship come to an end, even in such an ugly way .  And if you are dependent on the opinions of men and instead break the unnecessary greater emotional connection, enhances its own fantasies - and will suffer .

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