One day I came across a news story that was both tragic and funny. It told not too successful oral sex: young Muscovite pleasuring her husband so feelingly, that the right amygdala was injured, and the woman had to be taken to hospital. I imagine that after such a history of poor vowed never to do not do it easily. Sometimes a traumatic experience is very painful, and the mind is protesting every time as soon as circumstances in any situation, begin to resemble something unpleasant that happened to us. But does this mean that you have to go at it on occasion and avoided similar moments, thus protecting themselves from the heavy emotions and memories? And do not it happen that I would go on about their own phobias, can not see how you will become afraid to do too much?
These questions are not so harmless. Statistically oral sex living together in practice no more than one third of couples - 35%. But something tells me that this percentage could be much higher. Of course, most of us - just the innocent victims of a strict upbringing, even when unconscious at the age of our subcortex delayed one indisputable truth "can not be taken into the mouth the dirtiest! ". And I write about it calmly, because I do not believe muck dignity, not take it so. But men and women differently arranged mind, then we can assume that they may appear so.
"Those who said that they were pleased to touch the penis and oral sex, lies, to maintain the relationship with their men" - I heard one of the girls. And immediately, by the way, do not even believe that it is serious, it seemed to me that at that moment she just wanted to hurt me more painfully. But since a few years, and judging by the men's conversation on the subject, the attitude to this kind of sex from women is still special, I do not suffer alone. It would seem that all people are adults, everyone knows about "relax and have fun." Where does this fear of bodily bottom?
I asked a few girls to share their opinions on the bill. They say, sick, smell, br-r ... But the problem with the smell, to be honest, it seems some far-fetched. If you can not calmly and politely explain to your partner that you are confused "flavor" and give it an intimate wash gel - so, it's not the smell. Phobias are associated with a feeling of disgust in relation to the physical manifestations often talk about human psychological clamp. During intercourse the woman feel particularly vulnerable, and this fact does not allow to release tension.
Even this may be a consequence of the general neurosis or a particular psychological trauma: youth violence or monitoring this from the outside, heard in the early stories of important people, what they saw in the movies. The first sexual experience that rarely passes without problems against the background of strong feelings, too, can enhance disgust.
Of course, everything is very individual. When Lena was gone from her husband, for her it was a shock: it was a suicide attempt, severe depression. Four years later, she met another man and soon realized that he could not bring himself to engage in oral sex with him. The woman does not want that enjoyed a previous partner who hurt her - this also happens. And in general, if a man can do without it, then you should not do something that is so disgusting. Just as it may be disgusting to please your loved one?
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