The relationship with his father

Psychoanalysts believe that every woman in his mind involuntarily idealizes his father. "I think it is nonsense, - said my friend, when I solemnly said it in front of her. After all, there are many women who do not have it, and there are those who are generally pretty bad to their fathers are ... "

But here, everything is simple. Girls who grow up without a father, he is believed to still replace someone who performs the role of the father. A bad attitude, it does not negate the fact that the figure of the hero is still present. There is, after all, not only Malchish but Plohish, the antithesis of the good guy - and also chief. Not that I was a violent fan of psychoanalysis. Just sometimes women behave as if pretend that their case has become a classic.

Classic psychoanalysis rests on two pillars - is the Oedipus complex and Electra complex. The first occurs in boys who compete for attention with the father of the mother. The second means fighting the girls with their mothers. At the heart of each lies a contradiction: the desire for property and the inability to be on equal footing. And these complexes as Sigmund Freud thought characteristic of a person between the ages of 3-4 years. In the future, relations will be built already, depending on how well their internal contradiction was resolved.

The school Olesya attracted to "bad boys." Even it is not clear why. Girl she was positive, a good student, like, never had. A drawn. In the sixth grade, she fell in love Golovin, which groaned all teaching staff of the school. In her imagination he was fine as the Robin Hood of the foreign TV series, which then went on TV. And since then, off we go.

The first of the adult and serious novel she had a relationship that forced her to cry a lot and experience, but nothing good has not resulted. They lived with Vlad few years, and during that time he felt her strength. Vlad did not want to work, do not want to get married and lead a joint life. Instead, he disappeared for a long time is not known where and when there is, it devastated the fridge, watching TV and sleeping - this his contribution to their joint housekeeping ended. Once Vlad said that he was going to Moscow to earn normally. Olesya, he promised to call as soon as it finds a safe place. But I rang only once, said married and asked him to send his things ...

Now Olesya has a husband. But there is a problem. Husband drinks. And work is not so hard to. Gets accordingly - if not for her salary, it is unknown how would they lived.

Psychoanalysts believe that a woman with unresolved Electra complex as adults will be crazy about men, anyway related to the image of his father. Or, seek those who will embody the image to be provided in the admiration of his father. Either the people to strive for a diametrically different character - Opposing father.

Olesya relationship with his father was difficult. Pedantic and neat, he demanded an ideal order in the house and rigid discipline: all his family obeyed unquestioningly obeyed, and as commander of the soldiers. Pope rigidly controlled every step of her daughter, while she wanted as soon as possible to end this suffocating control. Her amorous in the "bad guys" - the desire to be happy in spite of my dad. Next to the man who turned out to be the most do not like him.

The problem with this choice is that it is not really free - woman focuses not on their real needs and preferences of his father. And while she does not realize it is unlikely to be happy.

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