If a woman does not want to give birth ...

One friend shared with me angrily recent history of a hike to the doctor. He decided that nerve problems, which the patient complained - the result of the fact that it is his "long-thirty," gave birth to the child.

"I would have agreed to if he would have said about stress, ugly food, resentment from my childhood, my sore back no matter thyroid - all at least present - resented friend. - But I do not have children, because they just do not want them to have. That's all. Dot! ".

She believes that no one should have nothing to do with why it is so decided. This decision is an adult, responsible citizen, and it should be respected and not to seek psychological flaw in it, some kind of trauma, sharahnuvshuyu women's consciousness so that she passed out the instinct of motherhood. It does not survive due to lack of his children, and her husband does not need necessarily to bear him a child. And there are no reflections on this subject anymore.

Psychologists know what I am now talking to the woman a little longer, you can often come to the conclusion that the reluctance to have a child - it's not your own decision. A unique way to adapt to their circumstances - do not have a shelter, there is no normal operation, there is no money. My friend, in turn, argues that women not wanting to have children, will only become greater. Human life is increasing, people are added - in nature were bound to include some mechanism to regulate the flow.

I can not say how true this theory here. But I think that not all women who are mothers, happy with their maternity had read publications of psychologists such as the problem of dislike for his own child. There were also women who undoubtedly love their children, but at the same time capable and spank and scold a way that even I blushed, man.

My friend said that the ugly scenes occur because women crush cultural stereotypes, although in reality the rule of "every woman must necessarily have a baby" was relevant to the time when infant mortality was very high, and among those born conventionally speaking, ten children survived one or two. In such circumstances, biologically speaking, "gives birth every fertile female." But the present society can easily afford, to those women who do not feel the need to become mothers, they did not become. Motherhood - it's still not a profession and not a duty, and the possibility that a woman should realize as their desires and needs.

Do you think she's right?

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