"We lived happily until he got married. Another…"

One of my very good friend she had to go away for the weekend to her friend. That other girl mourned his sudden loneliness: a young man, after two years of living together in one housing suddenly uncovered suitcases handed spinning from the balcony and announced his departure - without much equivocation and for all. "That's why you are all men - like one, and marry the other? "- And then he threw me in the lightning first, when I came back. As it turned out, the fugitive had already a month has been engaged to another ...

History - in spite of the dramatic theater - appeared in the development of the story is as old as the world. Masha (call as the injured party) so carefully organized acquaintance who lives in the neighborhood Vera, which one of my friends liked her common law husband, she did not notice the holes in his own love boat. And she went to bed - the husband (now former) will Verochkin.

What can I say? Of course, always nice to see themselves as the savior of lonely souls. But remember: the more you try to do it, the more chance that your man will remember which one hundred of your friends are free. Especially if you, due to congestion at the home field work in camouflage dress or jeans, make-up use in exceptional cases and harder for a couple of creases on the sides.

Sometimes we hear the girls ask itself whether to start talking about how to get married? Personally my opinion: yes, you! And a psychologist, Dr. Joel Block, in his book "The real causes for which the men to commit" I recently read that women should be treated with caution to the idea of ​​living together out of wedlock. As in such there is nothing wrong. But it is estimated their relationship man and woman - can not match. She, for example, may seem a natural isolation of a wedding, after three years of conducting common economy. But he does not think so. And the point.

"For a man, a civil marriage is often an enjoyable way to pass the expectation of the very - the only one. Women are often victims of their own delusions, believing that living together - it is a step towards marriage. Meanwhile, a man in no hurry to equate marriage and civil marriage. For them, the official marriage - a demonstration of a high level of commitment, "- says Joel Block.

Do you have a familiar couple who split after a civil marriage? It seems that they are at all. And how many abandoned and frustrated then plagued by the same question: "What is wrong with me? "Or" What makes it better? ". Hmm ... You can be super sexy, bold and temperamental "lighter" and fits perfectly into the interior of the mistress, which for the arrival of his guests beer and crackers already on the table, glasses, rubbed to a shine, and the oven is languishing branded chicken - but and not wait for the wedding ring. Because firstly at heart a man wants to be sure that educates its own children and wife sex bomb that confidence is not guaranteed. That friend of the sex bomb cool, but his wife did not want as much sex as loyalty, prudence and goodness. But (it is second) wife furniture - discreet, familiar, only home - is also not encouraging.

Try not to take responsibility for someone else's destiny. The council, once heard, it seems to me one of the best. It helps not to interfere in the affairs of others, when it did not ask for and do not make decisions for other people, and to think more about what he does well. For relations, in my opinion, perfect.

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