"I'm afraid my boss ..."

Among the leaders, there is one particular type - "awe-inspiring". The look of its representatives, in general, like all normal people. But at the same time they have a specific aura and behave in a way that subordinates are afraid of seeing them as a rabbit with a boa. Can I get rid of this nasty fear? Psychologists say yes.

Katie history:

I had a boss, talk to us, his subordinates, in a special manner. He pauses, during which stared at his counterpart. Many could not stand and began at this point to say something. Almost always - apologetic tone justifies. Often - vaguely and inconsistently. Some even cried.

About a year, I was afraid of his boss to horror. When I entered his office, I felt like I was - a little girl who had a terrible, terrible dream - everything inside is compressed and becomes difficult to breathe. If at this moment I have someone gently touched his shoulder, I would have probably been able to pass out.

One day I could not stand it, and ... an appointment with a psychologist. He explained to me and that my experience is deeply rooted in childhood. The fact is that once I was a little afraid of his father. He was a military man, a big, serious and very strict. In the house we have order and discipline prevailed, and I remember very well as always afraid to do something wrong. And the psychologist explained to me that the long-standing relationship to the Pope, I have - as adults - unknowingly suffered at his boss.

"What do I do now? "- I asked a specialist. It is advised to start more often communicate with parents. And this simple advice helped me a lot. My dad, a formidable permanent (as I thought) the commander of our family for many years, has now been totally harmless pensioner. And suddenly I understood clearly how much he needs my attention and care as everyone enjoys my call!

The more we talked, the less I'm shy in front of his head. Now, I thought that my boss - not no monster. A simple 40-year-old man, who, perhaps, he is afraid. For example, prostatitis. Or some personal crisis lurking stronger sex at this age. What he certainly complex because of his bald head and abdomen is planned ...

Afraid it then somehow did not want to. And the boss, by the way, well caught change of mood, because he started to talk to me like all normal people.

And what else?

It is clear that to wean itself from already logged into the habit of fear is not easy. But first it is important to at least realize that the fact that someone takes a higher position does not mean that he is better than you. There is respect and subordination. But fear and unquestioning obedience, they have nothing to do ..

If you are afraid of your boss, it will not go unnoticed. Noting servile attitude to the person, head in the best case just will not see you as a professional, and at worst - will feel in you a sacrifice. I can share psychological methods, allowing to cope with his fear of the boss at work:

- You can think of your boss some way. Posmeshnee and desirable ridiculous. Try to imagine it, for example, in leopard thong. And as soon as he starts to look heavy unblinking Kaa the boa constrictor - mentally "change their clothes" it.

- Use the clay animation technique. Imagine, how could look the boss's office, where you are called "on the carpet". You should at this point turn into a spectator who watches from the funny moving pictures.

- It is only against the background of the Lilliputians of Gulliver it seemed big-big. Have you ever thought about that and the boss can be a boss at every opportunity scolded him was worth? Think! Boss - it's just a symbol positions, which can lose as any other. And believe me, the fear of losing it at the chief may be even greater than yours.

- You can copy his movements or postures (within reason, of course. If the chief has a habit of pulling up his legs high, it is unlikely you will need). This technique is called "mirroring." The gist of it is that seeing a reflection of themselves, as it were, a loved one, a person does not show his claims.

- Let your monitor will be any original screen saver, and on the table or nightstand - trinkets dear to the heart, increasing mood.

- Present in the difficult moments that you are covered by impenetrable dome. Through it he does not get the sounds you protected. Breathe evenly and deeply, do not cross your arms and legs, keep a straight posture.

What could be useful:

- Well-known range of his duties and always be able to list the things that you are doing.

Carefully examine the article of the Civil Code of the moral damage. Some insolent can only rein in the threat of litigation.

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