Do you need a psychiatrist?

I have friends - a couple. When once Egor (real names of the heroes of this story, I changed) admitted that his relationship with his wife at an impasse because of her inappropriate behavior, I first took his words with a grain of salt. Jack, when we met was very nice and very pleasant. Yegor also claimed that the houses Eugene simply tortured her unnecessarily stormy emotional reactions in the slightest trouble ...

"Just not for her - and inflames the ancient Greek tragedy - he told me. At first Jack was crying silently, then begins to sob escapes, falls on the bed and theatrical sobs into a pillow between such monologues, dramatic theater that rests ... "

At first Yegor wife he comforted, but then began to notice that the "concert" rolled more and more often. When Jack, a fan of purity and cleanups, did not want to wash the dishes - she started to cry because that so much tired, and then there's the housework. I do not like something heard from Egor - immediately tantrum over the fact that nobody understands. "Wife need me to constantly go on about her, it's just a madhouse ..." - sighed Yegor so that it became clear - he did not long survive him.

Jack in their tears and lamentations did not see anything inappropriate. "We just Yegor differently express their emotions. For example, he yells and swears - is that better? - She shrugged her shoulders. We really are quarrels, but they occur at all. Egor simply inclined to exaggerate ... ".

I would myself, I confess, so I think if we do not the three of us gathered to discuss the situation. "Jen, I do not know how to behave when you cry" - this phrase Yegor suddenly played the role of a coded key. Disrupt someone's invisible hand emergency brake. From sweet and affable Eugene was gone: she began yelling at her husband, saying that did not shed any tears for no reason, criticized the fact that he could not support her in difficult times. "Well, in any such difficult? - I tried to reason with her Egor. - You've just said yourself that we have a good family, it is really so, but it is simply impossible to maintain such a constant glow. " Then the eyes of Eugene poured a waterfall of tears, began sobbing so desperate if my counterpart has lost a loved one. "It's always! Whenever I say something, it begins ... "- she sobbed.

  After several of our meetings with Zhenya became clear that it belongs to that breed of women who are accustomed to any means to achieve the desired. She felt that Yegor spent on calls, not attentive to it, it does not take seriously its state of mind, not as caring as we would like, forgetful. But as the permanent cause for reproach was not suffering from male selfishness Eugene cried with pleasure.

  It was pretty difficult to convince a woman that can not cry as often. Do not forget that the one who cries a lot, often makes others cry. Seeing a little girl, that with weeping and wailing can be easily manipulated by people, a woman can be truly "a tearful tyrant" in the family. Shorten the habit can be painful if you do not notice the tears and lamentations, and even better, leave her alone. Women quickly settle down in solitude, because it becomes not cry in front of anyone.

But if a man cries almost constantly, nothing is not seeking and obviously embarrassed by her tears (for example, trying to retire when they have poured out of his eyes), - it can be really dangerous symptom. In such cases it is better not to delay a visit to a psychiatrist.

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