Mom spoil the children of unequal love

Choosing a "pet" among their children, moms make a big mistake. "Rejected" children were significantly more likely in adult life suffer from depressive symptoms.

Researchers from Boston talked with 275 local mothers aged 60 and 70 who have had at least two adult children, as well as 671 children of these mothers. This is the first study of its kind that shows how harmful can be the parent favoritism   - When a woman brings a child to him and loves more than the other or others. Complex rejection flows from childhood into adulthood. However, suffer pets .

The findings of the study data could form the basis of new methods of psychotherapeutic treatment. "In our society, there is a generally accepted rule according to which all parents have their children to love and nurture the same, and favoritism   is a kind of taboo, - said study author Carl Pillemer, a gerontologist at Cornell University. - If family therapists will be able to help children and parents in dealing with these problems, many severe family conflicts will be prevented. "

Sociologist Purdue University Jill Suitor, who also participated in the study, says: "My mother's favoritism retains its impact even when the children become adults, and for many years lived separately from their parents, the head of his family. Moreover, it does not matter whether you are favorite Or the number in the category of "Les Miserables", unequal parental relations blow to the psyche. This applies to absolutely all children. "

Psychology

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