The relationship with a married: whether to meet?

Women often turn to psychologists to the question of whether or not to meet with some "zhenatikom." I think it's fair. The solution in this situation is behind the woman: once it eventually decides to remain man or not. In the novel with a married lover, some see the benefits, the other - the shortcomings. But the main thing - it's not about the experience in his illusions.

In my memory, there is only one case where married man   for girlfriend sweetheart divorced and led to the registry office. Many more stories when the relationship with the "zhenatikom" for years remained at the stage of the novel, then flashing, then slowly extinguished embers. Some grew a "family tree" change that is already becoming clear who has to someone to whom. Many just quietly burning down, gradually turning into the dull everyday cargo, which they say "suitcase without a handle."

There are, of course, such a composition adulterous women agree to them, no matter how proud they all costs. In this context, they receive what is most needed - money and dating. The problem is that women, who feel that the affair with a married only according to this scenario, and should develop - much more than you can realistically provide. Therefore, those who are now standing at a crossroads, I would venture to give this advice: how to think about before you tie affair with "zhenatikom." Becoming a woman married man, you automatically and quietly agree that the game now would be limited by its rules. That is, by the rules of men, and therefore are not considered women's interests. Whether you like it or not.

We mistress a married man   generally very paradoxical role. What makes a woman at the very beginning? Creates currently the most attractive reputation. And if a man admired and seeks to retire with her into the bedroom, despite her engagement ring. And if it happens once, twice and even become a good tradition - the woman is in a very ambiguous position. Trying for a loved one, it becomes for him, above all, a good lover. And the worse will be its relationship with the lawful wife, the more he is afraid that he will marry. Even on the best lover in the world in his mind once his wife - so sawmill. And if there are no problems with his wife, then why change the situation? Mistress in this case it is necessary for all what he nedobiraet home. This is an ideal disposition.

I do not know whether there are women who are willing to play second fiddle all the time, weeks, years. Perhaps there. We have to sometimes go without intimacy, care, custody and protection. But women know what to do to not feel cheated by empty promises of a married friend. They convince themselves that all this even means something. In short, deceiving yourselves.

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