I hardly doubt that this kind of family communication as cutting, men and women look different. Actually, "sawing", "Saw" - this word from the lexicon of the male. Women from its behavior in such terms is unlikely to assess. They think that if you constantly remind them of the same, a man sooner or later learns their teachings - and family life it will only be a boon. Psychologically, this process looks like this: one object saws other object causing this second sense of guilt, and with it - and a desire to make amends for his guilt.
By the way, can also cut men (and some sawing a virtuoso). But among women "saw effect" occurs still more frequently. The active area of the brain responsible for speech, women are several times more intense - this ability developed in the course of evolution itself, thanks to her woman could survive as a member of the human flock, the society and at the same time wife and mother. So she can speak very well, keeping in mind the multiple themes and use five tones of voice conversation.
Relationship problems It arises from the fact that women are actively using indirect speech, which have incredibly developed. They were not hunters, as men. Their main task was to maintain the peaceful coexistence next to their own kind, to avoid direct clashes. So the two women can speak, knowing that the true words spoken washed several others.
When she nags, she also says her favorite indirect language. What she wants to say? Usually, that of his men and their families, for which it donates to many (I say without irony: women's willingness to live for the sake of loved ones is very high) - it is waiting for more. She wants to break out of the circle of monotonous worries routine, but she does not know how to do it. It seems that a man should notice how many cases it has to perform around the house - and evaluate accordingly. For example, to express his delight, and even better - reward for the work done. But alas, the man thinking in straight lines, and women's observations man perceives it as a taunt, criticism, pointing out that he - and incompetent loser. He is irritated, angry or withdraws into himself. Relationship problems It grows like a snowball ...
What to do? For a start - stop feeling sorry for yourself and talk about myself as a victim of circumstances. That sense of responsibility for order in the home and family, which dominates many women, is actually a completely voluntary choice. In most cases, for him, like a shield, hiding their own psychological problems. What may be a claim to the man who heroically, without sparing himself, sticks for the family? As if any. And these women have to qualify themselves and criticize.
Is not it?
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