Relationship problems: best - his wife?

If your woman with maniacal persistence straightens everything in its path - folded in the closet underwear, stray locks of hair styles, your pronunciation and so on - do not worry, it will never end. Needless to say, anyway.

- Mit, well, do not you see?

- No ... what happened?

- Well, like what? ... No, I really do not see? You definitely something with an eye estimation - see how crooked hanging blanket!

She pulls the blanket irritated, and still dissatisfied with the way tucked bed (tucked Mitya, of course) - as a result pulls everything on the floor and starts to fill again. So, how in her opinion, is correct. Handsomely. "You like the same as cozy and well" - she says to her husband ...

You met a woman unhappy in life? Well, maybe not every free minute, but often that is obviously no longer just a coincidence - no matter how varied their social status, life priorities and passport data, there are problems remains unchanged .  Planck women claim specifies only the wealth of fantasy: some dream to marry an oligarch, others - that by 30 had his own car .  And such a strap can sit in the mind of every woman, no matter who it is - a successful boss or supervisor in the public transport .  Perfectionism - the quality is not social, but purely internal, oschuschencheskoe .  The main difference from the realist perfectionist that first critical of everything and at any cost wants to be the best .  And his main problem - the need to make a choice with which we are confronted again for life .  There are important things: the presence of family, health, the ability to feed themselves .  And there is not so: the family can not go on vacation, do not have enough money .  Yeah, sad and painful (but again - for whom?) .  But the family-ie! And there is money enough to make it to the salary .  So, in the main, the basic criteria of life is good!

Women perfectionist will never agree with this logic (read: common sense). They seem to be in such humiliating circumstances, and more than that: men, in their opinion, should also experience mental anguish. To understand what is better - family or work, no plasma or simple human happiness - and to take his life, the way it happens every day, it is difficult to unimaginable. Because the best should be all - a consequence of strips, entrenched in the mind.

At first glance, what's so bad: someone, in the end, to strive upward, and pull a backward tribes. Alas, the perfectionist is not as harmless as it may seem. For example, if you value a woman. Is it important to the extent that you are afraid to lose it. Just try to insist on their habits that do not like it. "You throw a drink once and for all in two minutes, or we split up and divide your apartment! "- To say it. And make no mistake, it does not really afraid of losing you, why should she not around someone who strives to be better and not working on them?

On the way, a perfectionist, too hard. They enthusiastically subordinates are trained and terrorize their excessive demands "uluchshayzinga." "Perfectionists tend to tie a sense of value to the performance, and therefore they are spending too much time on unnecessary details that really slows down the pace of work and reduces the overall productivity," - wrote in his book, psychologist Lorrie Laferti. If we add that because of the chronic craving for perfection, they usually are not willing to admit their mistakes, it is easy to imagine how difficult it is to be near them.

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