Women are very sensitive to rudeness, I just know it. After being rude necessarily mean aggression accumulated in man enraged by unspoken grievances and complaints. The weaker sex because of her maternal instinct to protect the progeny of some invisible locators captures the spirit of adrenaline danger. And some of its representatives, this susceptibility is catastrophic when tears and depression can begin with any little thing (from the male point of view, I mean).
Here Christine and Anton. Hard to believe, but parted ways after a trivial altercation - every family a hundred thousand of these. And live and be happy. And these - went ...
- He kept throwing everything and when something had to be urgently found, searching for hours - she said. Once Anton in the same way in the apartment lost my mobile phone, who took to call (it was in the order of things - he always lacked the money in the account) - and it took me to make a very important call. You know, I was, of course, very annoying habit of Anton, but I always told myself not to get angry. But at that moment I could not stand it. and she said that she can not be the loosening and uncollected because only children who would never meet, so behave. And he very rudely replied that I tell him by the arm. Well altercation ensued ...
Christina then offended, went to his mother. Overnight. But Anton did not even call. Neither the morning or evening. And it's already hurt her so that she would forgive him, could only by a lucky chance.
The case has not turned up, divorced.
Women often do not try once again to express their true opinions in some family situation. For example, for reasons that the family is best "bad peace" than controversy. Or because they are accustomed to tolerate the antics of her husband because of shyness or fear of him. It also happens that the property is long-suffering and voluntary sacrifice manifested quite unconsciously. For example, this happens to women who grew up in families where the statement notes to parents was simply unacceptable, and children are often punished - this policy is education forms the ban, which will remain in the mind and in adult life. But constantly to keep quiet dangerous, because one day suddenly escaped the negative (and it certainly will break) will be perceived much more painful than I could.
But to talk about the problems in the problematic point - is, alas, a typical female mistake. Can I scatter stones, but the criticism is effective only when the person is ready to accept it. Make comments to the person who is busy with something urgent and important - strategically wrong. His nervous system is at the moment so tense that immediately begin to sparkle. So, if you really think that his irresponsibility prevents to live normally, talk about it when he comes to his senses. At least an hour or two, if it really boiling. And, of course, if you really want to save your marriage.
And now this method of communication with man as blackmailing separation. Many psychologists believe that if a woman has chosen him, then relations have stalled. This is destructive and can cause such strong negative emotions that will destroy his family. In order not to come to a dead end, you need to find another way of communication.
I think that the difficulty in communicating in women occur due to the fact that they confuse their husbands' fathers and mothers, and expect their respective halves of the guardianship. And yet, in a relationship need to realize that only himself responsible for your own happiness. Try to learn to speak about their desires without tears and screams and switch to a negative assessment of actions loved the fact the contribution to development of relations can make yourself. This will help.
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