Civil marriage

Not registered in the registry office, but in fact the family - such a relationship has long been no shock. But who is this good?

In Civil marriage many allies. And no less opponents. Still hoarse arguing, good or bad, when the marriage - a civilian?

On the one hand, one or two years of marriage - is a very good test for uzhivaemost. For many clearer, because people are to one another such as it is, without masks. I mean, sometimes, of course, the case that before the ceremony at the registry office responsible lives next to the angel, and then, in the status he spoiled scary character. (For some reason, these changes are taking place, mainly with women.) But this is another story, and to her we shall return.

Here, for example, the case of Masha and Igor. Their relationship, which consisted mainly of going to the movies and restaurants, lasted about a month four. Beautiful couple, everything be touched. However, the wedding of Igor did not speak. But here intervened parents. "Dotyaneshsya, Masha, what will happen - and will not keep anything of his. A normal man must be commitment. And so it is like the wind in the field "- brainwashed daughter of veteran mom.

Whether really scared that prospect, whether by accident, but she got pregnant. Igor, like a gentleman, took Masha to the registrar.

Alas, it quickly became clear that the young rushed to start a family. Salaries of young father is clearly not enough, and constantly beg my parents did not want him. Masha thought such principles whim, and newly minted spouses more often quarreled over money. Both suddenly "seen the light": she found her husband deadhead and a loser, he did - a bitch and hysterical. This marriage did not last a year: at the time of the divorce yesterday love nothing more than irritation and anger at each other not tested. Then, between the families of Masha and Igor started a real war of the Child, which has not ended to this day.

The conclusion, in my opinion, is clear: wait and young together cohabiting Their difference would have quickly revealed, and all this drama happened.

Women, it seems, married for two reasons. For example (this is the first) to someone to prove something. The logic is simple: if I'm married, so I - the very one who would not say that there is. The second reason - it is the eternal feminine desire to absolve themselves of responsibility for everything that happens in their lives (and pass on to the other). The husband in this case is seen as a means of security and stability, its primary mission - to equip his wife with all the necessary, from nail polish to the car. Well, of course, make sure that it was never boring.

Women often do not realize that there is a family of climbers on the principle of bundles if one fell, the other must make a "double weight". The man simply can not physically be a perpetual motion machine, he is able to get sick (and even serious), a business can burn, luck - come to an end. And then you need to just offered him his wife's shoulder. And if instead it begins to complain about life, the man, driven by the instinct of survival, just wants to get rid of such goods ...

Alain and Denis met at the age of "well over thirty." Both were divorced, both have held career had jobs, cars and apartments.

They have been living in a civil marriage, and believe it is the most convenient option. General child and Alain Denis not plan: living with them, her son and his two children - his mother. From mercantile strife, we can assume also insured: any strangers square meters, or money, none of them infringe not going to have enough of its own. Spouses do not need to ask at the boots, the husband can not be held accountable for their financial costs: Alain and Sergey just put in a bedside table with a monthly "family budget" the same amount, and everyone is happy.

Such civil marriage   - A real idyll. And, then, in the life of such cases is very small. Still unconsciously and almost genetically woman craves stability and, above all, the "normal", a registered marriage. And when it is "natural" desire is suppressed, it becomes mentally ill.

As a man say, if any, unshaven macho pulls a registry office, then he is not completely sure of his choice. One and a half or two years of living together - enough time to understand the man, ready or not to guarantee that everyone in his family is well. And if the time came, and the marriage proposal has not yet been received, a good sit down and think about whether the correct choice you made.

And then honestly admit it to herself.

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